Hello Pretty Miley C,
Thanks for taking the time to send me your letter. Whew! Indeed, it was a novel-like story, and I thought I was reading Danielle Steel, but still, I appreciate your whole effort of writing me your story.
I have friends who had situations like this, and just like you, they had a very hard time recovering from the pain they had. It was very hard that they believed it was impossible to move on.
Truth is, it wasn't impossible at all, but the pain and the hardships they had gone through made the recovery look unachievable.
I know how you feel. Yes. I definitely know how you feel. I had been there, too - and I sucked big time at that, but what made me moved forward sooner than I thought was the fact that I did not let it eat me up. Breakups are big monsters and it's natural if you feel like a prey at the beginning of it, but somehow, you would learn that the only hero who could help you kill the monster is yourself.
By the looks of it, you think your love was unrequited and that at some points, you felt like you've been used as a safety net. If not, maybe, somehow, close to it.If you'd ask me how I got up from the painful fall I had, I'd tell you this. You need to listen to Elizabeth Gilbert (renowned author of Eat Pray Love):
You think you might need some changes. However, I hope you weigh the kind of changes you'll make for yourself. Otherwise, you might end up hurting people who are dear to you without your knowledge. For now, be busy with a lot of stuff. Divert your attention. Avoid the things you used to do together, or at least refrain from going to places where you used to hangout together.
I am not saying that you need to change your whole environment and disappear from the community where you are right now. All I'm saying is, you shouldn't be reminded of the things that you used to have when you were still together, and it doesn't have to happen in a finger snap. Take these things step by step. By then, you'll be surprised to see yourself fully healed - without any scars.
By the way, I credit you for breaking it up with him as early as you could. It takes a lot of courage to do that, but you were able to do it still.Like Gilbert, just eat, pray, and love.
I wish you'd find your happiness soon. Take care and God bless!
Lovingly,
The Pink Diary
I know how you feel. Yes. I definitely know how you feel. I had been there, too - and I sucked big time at that, but what made me moved forward sooner than I thought was the fact that I did not let it eat me up. Breakups are big monsters and it's natural if you feel like a prey at the beginning of it, but somehow, you would learn that the only hero who could help you kill the monster is yourself.
By the looks of it, you think your love was unrequited and that at some points, you felt like you've been used as a safety net. If not, maybe, somehow, close to it.If you'd ask me how I got up from the painful fall I had, I'd tell you this. You need to listen to Elizabeth Gilbert (renowned author of Eat Pray Love):
"A true soul mate is probably the most important person you'll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave."You might not have felt that he was, somehow, your soul mate but these words definitely would help.
You think you might need some changes. However, I hope you weigh the kind of changes you'll make for yourself. Otherwise, you might end up hurting people who are dear to you without your knowledge. For now, be busy with a lot of stuff. Divert your attention. Avoid the things you used to do together, or at least refrain from going to places where you used to hangout together.
I am not saying that you need to change your whole environment and disappear from the community where you are right now. All I'm saying is, you shouldn't be reminded of the things that you used to have when you were still together, and it doesn't have to happen in a finger snap. Take these things step by step. By then, you'll be surprised to see yourself fully healed - without any scars.
By the way, I credit you for breaking it up with him as early as you could. It takes a lot of courage to do that, but you were able to do it still.Like Gilbert, just eat, pray, and love.
I wish you'd find your happiness soon. Take care and God bless!
Lovingly,
The Pink Diary
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